How are you beaming?
This morning I woke up and realized it was going to be a "low beam" day. One of my friends had introduced me to this idea of "high beam" and "low beam." Some days you just feel sad or down or not so energetic... not on your game. Those are "low beam" days. And other days you wake up WOW and energetic and things flow and you could take on the world. That feels "high beam." I've really liked this idea of tuning in to how I feel to pace my day. And, to also give myself extra self-care if I need it.
In the book "The Four Agreements," I found the Fourth Agreement fascinating: Always do your best. Don Miguel Ruiz writes: "Under any circumstance, always do your best, no more and no less." No more? That sounded intriguing and frankly liberating. I often feel like I'm always supposed to be doing more. I "should" do more, shouldn't I... surely?
He continues, "But keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. Everything is alive and changing all the time, so your best will sometimes be high quality, and other times it will not be so good."
This morning I met the same friend who introduced me to the idea of "high beam" and "low beam" days. We had planned to play squash. I let her know I was not feeling "high beam." I didn't want to claim I was feeling "low beam." She informed me she was also feeling "middle beam."
We began hitting the little rubber ball around, and if something good happened for either of us we would give a high five. We joked that a "high beam" high five would be full on hands hitting, and a "low beam" high five would mean our hands would pass and not even touch. The "middle beam" high five was half touching palms. By the time an hour had passed, we had been exercising, laughing and I think we were both higher beaming than we were before.
"Doing your best is taking the action because you love it, not because you are expecting a reward," the book continues. "Most people do exactly the opposite: They only take action when they expect a reward, and they don't enjoy the action. And that's why they don't do their best."
I love seeing my friend, and now I love squash. Even though I woke up sad and frankly feeling a little defeated, I got myself to meet her and it turned my beam up. We are all full of light and sometimes it's really shining and some days not so much. Ruiz encourages, "We don't need to know or prove anything. Just to be, to take a risk and enjoy life, is all that matters." That's definitely "high beam!"